What to do When your Life Plan Falls Apart

I think I can speak for everyone when I say that 2020 went nothing like I had planned. Corona shut down the world as we knew it, heightening our collective and individual fear, loss, and pain. But it also caused a lot of us to reflect on what really mattered, to dig deep and process traumas, to talk about important issues, and provided us the opportunity to grow and practice gratitude.

When our world is shaken, three things usually happen: 

1. Our values and morals are revealed.
2. Our virtues either change or are strengthened.
3. We realize where there is room for improvement (personally, socially, politically, etc).

Like I said, a lot of things didn’t go as planned last year, and it was sucky. I graduated college, moved across the country from community and familiarity, and no jobs were opening up. Meanwhile, my friends and acquaintances had the next steps of their lives planned out - whether it was a job or pursuing graduate school. I was comparing my journey to theirs, lamenting the fact that I didn’t have a “solid” plan. After taking a few weeks to rest, I realized that I wanted to use my “waiting” time efficiently. So while I was waiting, I made sure to be productive: I studied, meditated on values and goals, and I was growing, even though it didn’t feel like it at times. Soon enough, I got an internship, and it’s all a part of the preparation of what’s next (whatever that may be)! 

All in all, I came to a place where I’m at peace with the fact that while I don’t have control over a lot of things … I can only choose how I handle a given situation. And I’m going to continue taking it day by day. 

Whatever you’re going through, just know that no one has it figured out. No one. You’re okay.

Here are a few reminders I’ve had to tell myself, that I want to share with you:

• You’re not falling behind. 
• Do what you can today.
• Plans can change and that’s okay.
• You are on your own journey, not theirs.
• Take it one day at a time.

Written By: Desiree Salamasina Washington