So you’ve recently gone through a breakup. Now what? After a breakup, your coping mechanisms help determine how long and how well you will get over the breakup. Many want to turn to negative coping mechanisms because they are easier. If you turn to positive ones, even though they might be uncomfortable, you will notice yourself grow as a person. To assist you on your post-breakup healing mission, I’ve ranked activities out of 5 stars just for you.
1. Work on yourself ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
This is the best time to do some inner-self work. There’s no better reason to start therapy than after a breakup. Don’t mind the stigma around therapy; it is truly life-changing once you start. Being able to talk to someone who is outside the situation gives you a different perspective on life, and some much-needed, unbiased advice. Therapy is also great to acquire tools to tackle other big life events.
2. Hang out with loved ones ⭐⭐⭐⭐
Nothing will remind you of all the positivity in your life after a breakup like hanging out with friends and family. Relationships are not just romantic. We as a society do not put as much emphasis on good relationships with friends as we do with romantic partners. These relationships are just as, or even more, important as romantic ones. Being around friends reminds you that you are lovable and there will always be people there to pick you up when you are down. This is also a great way to not be alone after a breakup and to keep your mind off of it. Being alone after a breakup can heighten negative thoughts, while being around loved ones distracts you.
3. Drunk texting ⭐
The worst thing to do after a breakup is drunk texting. Almost everyone misses their ex after they break up, but that is no excuse to drunkenly message them. Most times, nothing good comes out of it, as you reopen fresh wounds. I know what they say, that “drunk words are sober thoughts,” but you guys broke up for a reason. If you truly wanted to talk things out, it should be a sober decision. If you do end up drunk texting your ex once or twice, it is not a big deal, but maybe it’s time to block them so you are not tempted anymore. You need to let yourself heal and having an ability to contact this person easily will not help the healing process.
4. Go on a date ⭐⭐⭐
This is not for everyone, but going out on a date with someone can be very healing. Being able to go out with someone else is an indication that you are moving on. You are telling yourself it is possible to move on, and that there is more to life than your ex. Also who knows, meeting someone new might show you all that you have been missing out on. This is also a great way to put yourself out there and meet new people, even if it’s not romantically. Just remember, there is no need to rush dating! Wait until you have properly healed.
5. Stalk them on social media ⭐⭐
One of the worst things to do after a breakup is stalking your ex on social media. Nothing makes you feel worse than browsing their page, and seeing them out having fun, looking like the breakup did not phase them. You are setting yourself up for disaster by stalking them. It is time to stop worrying about them and start worrying about yourself, even if this means blocking them. Blocking someone is a lot better than your mental health suffering.
By: Sydney Karlos