Before I entered college, I ended my high school relationship with my hometown boyfriend. We both chose the same college, but I still questioned if having a boyfriend in college was worth it. I’m now ending my junior year with my high school boyfriend of three years. To say the least, I have never been happier. Having my boyfriend as a support system has been the biggest relief throughout my experiences. Yes, there are some times I feel like I’m missing out. But once you have a good relationship, why let it go?
Many people have asked me how I can date in college with all of the responsibilities it comes with. It’s simple. We each have our own life outside of school. Therefore, after we finish all of our responsibilities, we make time for each other. One of the benefits of having my partner at the same college is the opportunity to meet other people through him. I’ve met some of my best friends through the people my boyfriend has met at college.
It’s okay to sacrifice parts of your social life for schoolwork and classes. It’s okay to make friends rather than chase a relationship. College is all about what you make of it. Allocate your time to the things that make you happy. Yes, my relationship in college has worked out for the better, but that doesn’t mean you need a significant other. College is all about meeting new people, trying new things and finding yourself. You’ll meet the right person when the time comes. Until then, don’t stress.
I’ve watched many of my friends try dating apps throughout the college experience. From Tinder to Hinge, many have found partners while, others have found hookups. These apps can be a great way to meet new people and explore what you look for in a relationship. It won’t be successful all of the time, but that’s what college is about: trial and error. If you’re not into that, don’t stress about it. I know it can be hard watching your friends meet new people like this, especially if you’re lonely. Understand your self-worth and the right time to actively start meeting new people will naturally follow. But don’t forget to support your friends who do choose to actively date online!
Many people will say “you’re wasting your time dating in college” or “you’re wasting your time NOT dating in college?” But which one is right? There is no correct way to pursue the experience you want out of these four years. You’re only in college once, and it’s what you make of it. The stigma surrounding dating in college can go either way. Whether it’s not taking the opportunity to go to a date party or spending all your time with your partner. You have the right to make the first move and choose what works for you. For me, I’ve chosen to stay loyal to my boyfriend, and that's ok. I’ve built a healthy relationship with someone I love, while still engaging with other friends, extracurricular activities, and schoolwork. Navgiating the dating world is not for everyone in college, and that's ok too! Don’t worry about what other people around you are doing and focus on yourself!
Written by: Chloe West