We’ve all found ourselves stuck in a situation where you like someone, but for whatever reason, you never end up dating. Maybe they didn’t like you back, maybe you never got the chance to tell them, or they were already in a relationship. Regardless of the reasoning, this situation still sucks. The process of getting over that person is filled with “what if’s” and lots of uncertainty. This task can seem impossible, especially if you still see that person on a regular basis.
The most important thing that you can do is give it time. It may not seem like it at the moment, but those romantic feelings will fade, and eventually, those feelings of hurt will too. It’s important to not just sit around and wait for this to happen though. Even though you’re hurting, you still need to take care of yourself. Make sure that you are still eating well, showering, and staying social. Engaging in real life doesn’t mean ignoring your emotions and waiting for them to pass. It’s okay to acknowledge that you’re upset or hurt. Take time to sit with these feelings, and lean on the support systems you have around you.
This brings us to the next step in getting over someone you had a crush on: talking about it. It might be difficult at first, but sometimes all you need to feel better is a good vent session. Whether it’s to a friend, a family member, or a journal, venting allows you to get out your feelings and possible frustrations. If talking about your emotions isn’t your thing, try grabbing a friend and doing an activity that you love. Picking up a new hobby is also a great way to cope with whatever you may be feeling. In between your new hobby, and talking with friends and family, try to avoid social media. Instagram and Twitter makes it that much more tempting to virtually stalk your crush. Doing this could make you feel worse, and could also leave you with major FOMO.
Whatever way you decide to cope with your unrequited feelings, it’s important to remember that they aren’t forever. They may hinder you for a little bit, but before you know it, you’ll be feeling better than ever. It’s also important to recognize that someone not liking you back does not reflect who you are. Not having your feelings returned doesn’t make you a bad person, or mean that you need to change yourself; it simply means that this person was not the one for you.
Written by: Alexa Rosenberger