Navigating relationships (both romantic and platonic) can be exhausting. Knowing what’s right and wrong, and when to say and do the right thing is complicated. To compensate for the confusion, you may find yourself giving way more than you take. It’s important to remember that you do not owe anyone anything. This is your life; these are your relationships and your boundaries. People are not entitled to your time, space, and energy. If you struggle to maintain healthy boundaries, here’s a list of a few things that you do not owe anyone:1. An apology
In life, we’re going to mess up. We’re imperfect, we’re human, and that’s what happens. Sometimes, we feel the need to apologize for a problem we caused. Other times, we apologize to appease the other person. You are entitled to your own feelings and opinions, and you do not owe anyone an apology if you don’t feel it is necessary.2. A date
Finding a nice partner can feel like a challenge when you are navigating the dating world...especially the virtual dating world. It is difficult to sift through people with the wrong intentions, and to find the hidden gems. You don’t owe anyone your time, a date, or anything further just because they were simply nice. Being kind is often praised as a rare virtue, but it’s actually just the bare minimum. Kindness is something we should strive for every day, with every interaction, without expecting anything in return.3. An explanation for your appearance
As our lives are broadcast through social media, people feel entitled to knowing everything about us. Some people want complete access to all your personal info, from who you’re dating, to what you wear, and why you changed your look. People also feel entitled to ask why you changed your appearance (haircut, weight, style, plastic surgery etc.) in real life, which is completely inappropriate. Negative and positive attention from outsiders can be overwhelming, but always remember that you do not owe anyone an explanation for your appearance. You can set your own boundaries and decide who you share what information with.4. An excuse to cancel your plans
If you're like me, you feel extremely guilty doing anything for yourself. On the days where I have plans, but also crave a mental health break, I find myself opting to stay social. It’s important to prioritize your mental health, and to surround yourself with people who understand your need for personal space. If the people around you can’t accept this, you may need to reevaluate these relationships.
You shape your own life, and you are allowed to set boundaries to protect your health and happiness. Keep your head up, honor your needs, and remember that you don’t owe people your energy at the expense of your well-being!
Written by: AprilInstagram: @Aprll