When you are in a long-term relationship there are bound to be moments of boredom. It doesn’t mean you do not love the person, but your relationship cannot be thrilling 24/7. There will not be movie scene moments everyday in your relationship, and that is okay! But sometimes when a relationship feels static, a partner or both partners will want to find ways to make it feel thrilling again. If you’re searching to reignite that flame, you’ve come to the right place. Let’s dive into some ways to help spice up your relationship again.
A great way to spice things up is to try something new together. Relationships often fall into routines: the same restaurants, activities, etc. Go out and try something new that one of you, or both of you, have wanted to try. From pottery, to yoga, or a fine dining restaurant, trying something new can lead to new hobbies and experiences you guys can share together.
Trying something new can go hand-in-hand with new types of dates. If you guys typically only do dinner dates maybe go for a movie date or a trip to the aquarium. Trying a new type of date night can spice up a relationship and make it feel like you guys just started dating.
If you really want to shake things up, try writing each other love notes. Do you make your partner’s lunch? Write a little love note on a post it and put it in their lunch box or briefcase. It can be an amazing mid-day pickup! If you go to work while your partner remains at home, leave a note around the house for them to find during the day.
You can also write love notes over text. Texting your partner mid-day that you are thinking about them is more romantic than people think. Being affirmed that someone is thinking about you is an amazing feeling.
And of course, an obvious way to spice up a relationship is trying something new in bed. A change in your sex life can be a great way to feel excited again. Sex is a great way to feel close and intimate with your partner. Trying something new in bed can help bring the spark back into a relationship.
When a relationship feels stagnant it also may feel as though your sex life has hit a slump. Being open to talking to each other about sex can help each partner feel more comfortable trying something new.
It is normal for couples to go through moments in a relationship where things may feel off or not as exciting. Keeping up with communication and being open-minded can help you and your partner overcome these moments.
By: Sydney Karlos