So you have gotten to that point in your relationship where the talks about moving in are beginning. For some people, this is a dream come true, and for others, this is their worst nightmare. Either way, it’s important to take into account certain factors before choosing to cohabitate with your partner. Check out my list of signs that you are prepared to make the move.
1. Finances are under control
Are you financially stable? This is probably the most important question to ask yourself before moving in with anybody. If you can barely afford to pay rent, utilities, and groceries, then I would say wait a bit to get some savings. The worst thing to do would be to move in with someone and have no savings. If something bad happens, like your car needs to go to the shop, you should be able to afford this without worrying about paying for rent. Having some sort of savings before moving in with someone is important especially if you end up having to move out. Being financially stable gives you a sense of independence, especially when you are giving up a bit of freedom when moving in with someone.
2. Organization is understood
Do you guys have similar organization/cleaning styles? Trust me, if you are a neat-freak and your partner is very messy, it is going to be very hard to live together. If this sounds like your relationship, it is important to have a conversation about cleaning and how to keep a living space tidy. If someone is unwilling to help clean, or at least keep a space tidy, they are probably not someone you want to live with. Taken from experience, this will only cause problems in your relationship down the road. Being open with your partner on how you think a living space should look is key before moving in with each other. If you both have different opinions, it is important to talk it out and understand some compromises may need to be made.
3. You’ve overcome arguments
Have you had an argument yet? Disagreements in relationships are inevitable and they are healthy in moderation. If you are still in the honeymoon phase in your relationship, it is probably not the time to be thinking about moving in with that person. Being able to argue in a mature and safe way means you have learned that person’s coping mechanisms and stress responses. If you have your first fight right after you move in together this may put a strain on a relationship, especially when you are in close spaces and unsure on how that person reacts in those types of situations. This does not mean you should go out of your way to start an argument if you have not had one, but maybe you should hold off on moving in with one another until you learn a bit more about one another.
4. You’re following your gut feelings
Does your intuition say to go for it? This is the perfect time to listen to what your gut is saying, even if you don’t like it. If that little voice is telling you this is the right thing to do, then you should listen to it. If that little voice is having doubts, give yourself time to sit on it. You should not make a decision this big too fast. If you sense that a partner wants to move in together because they want some sort of control, it is better to listen to that intuition and hold off on moving in. If you are truly unsure about moving in with your partner, do not do it. It is important to make sure you are completely sure and comfortable before making any decisions.
Written by: Sydney Karlos